Tip 1: Establish your Facts First
When difficult situations arise, it can be easy to jump in quickly with “problem solving” mode. While there may be some times when fast action is absolutely necessary, for most situations, your first step towards successful solution is to establish facts. Take a step back and remember that facts as opposed to hearsay or opinion are best.
Tip 2: Look for the Root Cause
People do not come to work to do a bad job or to be difficult. You need to get to the bottom of what’s causing the difficulties. Chose to find out what the underlying cause is first before reacting. When you allow a person space to explain what’s really happening for them, you can help them to change much more effectively.
Tip 3: Actively Listen
Actively listening to what is being said is key, because in moments of conflict emotions normally are running high. Resist the temptation to jump in before you have properly listened to the different points of view.
Tip 4: Avoid Pre-Judgement
If we are honest, there are times when we form some judgements immediately. While these can be right at the end of the day, don’t let pre-judgement get in the way of establishing the real issues.
Tip 5: Change your mind
If you go into a conversation thinking that someone is difficult, you will find yourself on the defensive, which is likely to ratchet up the tension between you in a particularly unhelpful manner. Reframe your thinking; maybe they are not difficult; maybe they are just different from you.
Tip 6: Act Professionally
The challenge for you is to remain professional at all times. A good test of this is to ask yourself how you would like to be treated if you were not the manager or leader but an aggrieved party.
Tip 6: Aim for Win-Win
While it’s not always possible to find a win-win solution, try to find the solution that works better for both parties, one that doesn’t result in one party feeling that they have lost while another has won. This might require some careful negotiation around what would constitute a good outcome, both parties actively listening to each other and agreeing an alternative solution that normally neither had originally thought of.
Tip 7: Find Out What they Need from You
When faced with a difficult colleague, we have a better chance of getting them to understand us by focusing on what they need from us. It can be tempting to think: ‘Why should I change when they are the problem?’ But the truth is that they’re your problem and if you want it fixed, the most effective way is to take responsibility for the change yourself. Often, the answer is to change something about yourself first.”
Tip 8: Remember the “One size DOESN’T Fit All” Approach
Each situation and person is different. While there might be some common ground with people, remember that it’s unlikely that a ‘one size fits all’ approach to difficult situations will work. Adapt your approach depending on the situation and the person.
There you go – 8 tips that I hope help you in tricky situations.
Remember handling difficult situations is part and parcel of managing and leading in recruitment. It can also be a powerful tool for getting to know your team and individuals that can get you great respect and buy in from them when handled professionally.
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